My First Energy Orgasm

I was in Koh Phangan Thailand, connected to a nowadays infamous tantra school, connecting with an advanced tantric practitioner. 

My mission was at that time to learn the potential of the female body and LIVE it. 

Reclaim sexuality and live (again) it’s potential

Awakening and cultivating that sexual energy. 

Honestly, although nowadays I have experienced some more of its potential, it still feels like a wonderful exploration journey that continues to evolve.

Anyway, this tantra school I would NOT recommend and that is why I won’t name it here. 

I do recommend TaoTantricArts with Minke de Vos and Shashi Solluna, who are wonderful imperfect human beings offering the most complete (also for beginners) and safe way to learn more about all things (re)awakening of the feminine and female sexuality. 

I am very grateful for my experiences in this tantra school though, because learning by doing is my thing. 

While connecting with this experienced man, I was doing taotantric practices two hours every day (5 days a week, ok ok…) for at that moment four months.

This man lived what they called in this tantra school ‘brahmacharya’, where they meant that a man would never ejaculate and only transmute his sexual energy and/or have implosive orgasms. 

Now… whether this was actually 100% the case, I don’t know. 

I do know that when a man doesn’t ejaculate every day, but according to Taoist / TCM ‘guidelines’ for age (ie. 30 - once a week, 40 once every two weeks) and archetype, something happens with the energetic potence of the penetrative energy. 

He definitely did not ejaculate a lot and was used to move sexual energy. 

While making love with this man I understood the magnetism of sexual energy between men and women. 

Having done all those taotantric practices and healing on my own yoni, I understood how to receive this energy. 

I let his ‘energetic penis’ awaken the receptivity in my yoni at a deeper level.

Does that mean you need an experienced taotantric partner to awaken your yoni? 

Goddess no! 

This was just my unconventional way of learning by doing. 

This ‘awakening’ wouldn’t have happened if I did not do all these years of studying and practising and trying to understand how to heal, awaken and cultivating sexual energy. 

The experience with this man taught me to understand men’s sexual potential better as well. 

It helped me on my journey, but did not make me ‘multi-orgasmic’ or have an energy orgasm. 

THIS I did through my own practice. 

It DID awaken something in me, through which, while doing a week of intensive sexual energy practice, I experienced an energy orgasm the first time. 

That day I was cheating just a little bit though… 

I was wearing a yoni egg, which intensifies a bit the sexual energy flow when squeezing and releasing the pelvic floor muscles. 

What I did after a yoni egg release/healing session, was what we will do in the Energy Orgasm One Day Retreat in Leiden. 

I had the impulse to do the following: laying on the bed, knees up and with the inhale moving my hips minimally up and with the exhale down (not even squeezing and releasing the pelvic floor muscles consciously!). 

I was imagining life force energy (qi) penetrating me with every inhale, breathing it up the spine. 

At a certain point the energy was so intense it reached a peak where my whole spine was moving like a snake and experienced a blissful moment. 

‘Ah, so this was it,’ I thought. 

Wow. 

My eyes were shining the whole day and I couldn’t sleep that night, because there was a lot of energy and I was (and am still!) learning how to release the amount that was too much. 

Does this mean you need to practice every day for hours to experience even a hint of an energy orgasm? 

No. 

You could say that knowing what to do and practising it DOES help. 

Depending on the amount of trauma stored in the body, the energy flows more or less easily, but flowing it does. 

How to navigate this in a safe way, not awakening too much at once so that you cannot handle it, is key to experiencing anything at all. 

If you go too fast, your body shuts down or blows open and both is not a nice way to work with sexual energy. 

When you start practising I guarantee that you feel something, what exactly and how it will show up in your unique body, is of course part of the exploration. 

An energy orgasm is never the same. 

How it feels when energy moves in the body… it’s never the same. 

More subtle or intense… 

It’s an exploration!

Curious to explore more yourself? 

You could start here with a wonderful basic practice shared in the free mini course here (click!) that gets you started cultivating that sexual energy!